'Get your boss fired': During the office holiday party, an employee catches his boss canoodling with an intern, causing a debate on the difference between blackmail, leverage, and legit honesty

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    r/antiwork. Posted by u/PuzzBat9019 1 day ago D I saw something at the company holiday party that may have compromised me This year my company had a party kind of early because we have a lot of remote workers and we're international, so a lot of people actually flew in for the party.
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    It started kind of normal, and everyone was having a good time. I mean people were for sure a bit drunk but nothing too crazy had happened. I wanted to head out kind of early, as I didn't want to be hungover at work today. I left my bags in a kind of remote part of the office.
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    As I walked into the dark desk space, I heard a noise right away. I looked over and in the corner was definitely my boss, and an intern from another department hooking up (early stages it seemed like but was hard to tell in the dark). I was obviously shocked as my boss doesn't have a history of being a creep, and I have never even
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    seen these two people interact. At my company we have for sure some will they won't they coworkers, but this is for sure not one of them. Anyway, the real problem was that they saw me...seeing them. Like for the love of god would you do this in the office itself? At least do your shady in neutral territory.
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    I will not tell anyone what I saw (besides you Reddit lol) but still not sure how I should approach the situation. No idea how I will look my boss in the eyes after seeing that, as he is married and I don't want to be punished even indirectly for catching him.
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    How should I approach this? Does anyone have also awkward or embarrassing stories at work Christmas or holiday parties? Need to know I am not alone. It will at least make me feel better.
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    Nicolehall202 1 day ago Act like nothing happened, act the same as you always do. He will think you didn't see anything. People believe what they want to believe.
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    Magjee 1 day ago idle He will think you didn't see anything No, He will know you saw and kept your mouth shut This gives you some leverage over him It's not like you are bulletproof, but they should have your back more even if it is just from fear you will rat them out
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    bee5sea6 1 day ago Exactly, more like congrats on the promotion OP 8 Reply Share AberNurse 8 hr. ago That, or it will give him a reason to undermine your credibility before finding a reason to get rid of you out of fear. He will work on making you like like a liar and a drama queen, before treating you in a way that makes you respond in an emotional way, when you do so he will say "see I told you she was unreliable" and then you will be let go for something totally unrelated
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    Simple-Ad5000. 1 day ago Best advice! It happened to me, and new his wife and kids. Just act normal. Don't try to make awkward conversations. Send yourself an email with details, date, time, your decision to not mention anything, and keep this in case of retaliation.... Reply Share 125 ElegantCap89. 1 day ago BUT NOT FROM WORK COMPUTER.
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    mudokin 1 day ago You got it twisted, you are not the one that should feel bad and compromised. You are the one that hold all the cards now. Don't blackmail it anything, you have no real evidence anyway, but I will bet you boss is now going to tread very careful around you. Since as soon as you are fired or get in trouble, you can tell on him.
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    PaulRicoeurJr. 1 day ago So if I understand correctly, you are trying to fire me because I caught you having an affair at the office party? Reply Share 414 titianqt 1 day ago "You are trying to fire me because I observed you taking advantage sexually of an intern, who is much younger and far less powerful than you at this company?"
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    SteerKarma 1 day ago You should 'approach this' by minding your own business. If your boss talks to you about it tell them that you're somebody who likes to mind their own business.
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    ginger_ryn 1 day ago i honestly can't believe everyone saying to ignore it. this is a massive power imbalance and not acceptable behavior. this is something that could and should get your boss fired. me personally, i would find another job, and then report your boss. this is not ok for him to do.
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    DraftZestyclose8944 1 day ago So you saw your direct manager from your company fooling around with an intern, in the office no less, and the advice you get is to ignore it? Depending on your position if you have any supervisor role you are obligated to report that behavior to HR. If you are an
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    individual contributor and have not been trained in reporting you might get away with being ignorant on how to handle. Consult your employee handbook that you signed and see if it has anything in there. If the intern decides to turn this into a sexual harassment thing and your name comes up as having seen them, watch out.
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    PuzzBat9019 OP 1 day ago My problem hinges on the fact that 1. he is obviously my boss, and 2. whether this is consensual. Tbh it looked consensual, but it was dark and I was kind of drunk myself and I have never spoken to her. I can't state this enough, I really have no idea about their dynamic. If it had been
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    two regular coworkers I for sure would keep my mouth shut as it is none of my business. But now, I really think the best strategy is to check in with her on the low, and if it does appear to be consensual, I am more than happy to never speak of this again... if it's not, then this is a different convo
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    Opetyr 21 hr. ago Go to HR. That boss will find an excuse to fire you. Shoot first or you will look like you are retaliating against him WHEN THEY FIRE YOU.
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    Meat Bingo 1 day ago I disagree with the say nothing. I would cover my and say something to HR so there is no chance of retaliation should your boss get nervous about what you saw.
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    StellarPhenom420 1 day ago Why is nobody saying report this behavior to HR? It doesn't matter that one may or may not be married or whatever. Their personal relationship isn't YOUR personal concern, however their behavior AT WORK is inappropriate! They've now created a hazardous work environment FOR YOU.
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    "Blackmail him, get a promotion"

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